Humane Culture

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any.” – Alice Walker Once again the issue of equality and respect for women in the workplace is making its way into the headlines. I’m...
“Preconceived notions are locks on the doors to wisdom.” Forty years ago, when I was in grade school, I remember learning about the women’s rights movement and the civil rights movement. I remember thinking about these recent historical events as...
Just because other people are fueled by drama, doesn’t mean you need to attend the performance. – Cheryl Richardson I was busily working away at my new firm when the head of my department crept into my office, eyes wide....
“An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.” – Gandhi I met my friends Brian and Melissa shortly after they got married about twelve years ago. They had a good relationship but they had a recurring fight they...
This post originally appeared on TUT.com HERE. When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion. - Dale Carnegie I was babysitting my friend’s daughter one afternoon. I was busily rearranging my clothes...
Arguing with a fool proves there are two. – Doris M. Smith I was driving along I-95 one day and noticed the driver behind me was flailing his hands in the air, attempting to get me to move over to...
If the two of us are always in agreement, then one of us doesn’t need to be here. I was attending a dinner at a colleague’s house many years ago. I headed up the walkway, stepped through the front door...
The beauty of the world lies in the diversity of its people. - Anonymous Thursday nights used to mark my last night of law school classes for the week and one more day of a long workweek. It was also...
A good friend of mine was reeling after a breakup with his serious girlfriend. He confided in me that while still seeing his serious girlfriend, he had met another girl and had started dating her. He told his serious...
“Women with low self-esteem love bad boys... women who love themselves love good men.” Tracy McMillan My friend went through a divorce recently. She had found out her husband had been having an affair for the last few years of...
If I am not for myself, who will be for me?  If I am only or myself, what good am I?  If not now, when? - The Talmud When The Little Mermaid first came out, my friend’s 7-year old son...
“The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it." – Roseanne Barr When I was growing up and dinnertime was over, everyone in the family would stand up and begin to clean up,...
  “Nobody shows up in your world except by your invitation” – Alan Cohen I once spotted a man across a crowded room at a party and there was an instant mutual attraction. He made a beeline for me, grabbed a...
The perfect relationship is not one in which you never get angry with each other, but one in which you are able to quickly resolve and bounce back to normal. – Anonymous When I was in my early twenties, I...
“Fortunately for serious minds, a bias recognized is a bias sterilized.” - Benjamin Haydon I was teaching a class on estate planning and a man from the audience asked a question about owning property jointly with a spouse. As he...
“People call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat or prostitute.” – Dame Rebecca West A former colleague of mine would make a big deal out of the fact that his wife, who also...
“Men are from Earth. Women are from Earth. Deal with it.” – George Carlin Recently I made the monumental decision to run my own practice as a solo attorney. After a year of soul-searching through various options, I finally felt...
  “What you don't see with your eyes, don't witness with your mouth.” -Jewish Proverb My friend Jen used to describe her best friend since childhood, Tracy, as a complete screw-up. Every time she would mention her, she would roll her...
  “You can have everything you want. You just have to quit waiting for someone to tell you that you deserve it.” – The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel Forty years ago, when I was in grade school, I remember learning about...