People Skills

“Fortunately for serious minds, a bias recognized is a bias sterilized.” - Benjamin Haydon I was teaching a class on estate planning and a man from the audience asked a question about owning property jointly with a spouse. As he...
“People call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat or prostitute.” – Dame Rebecca West A former colleague of mine would make a big deal out of the fact that his wife, who also...
  “Anxiety is contagious. Fortunately, so is calm.” - Anonymous In my last blog, Gossip: The Other Green-Eyed Monster, we saw an illustration of how destructive gossip can be. Gossip can take an ordinary situation and escalate it very quickly into...
  “What you don't see with your eyes, don't witness with your mouth.” -Jewish Proverb My friend Jen used to describe her best friend since childhood, Tracy, as a complete screw-up. Every time she would mention her, she would roll her...
  “You can have everything you want. You just have to quit waiting for someone to tell you that you deserve it.” – The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel Forty years ago, when I was in grade school, I remember learning about...
“If you are afraid of being lonely, don’t try to be right.” – Jules Renard I was giving a presentation to a group of colleagues recently. I was talking about a complex area of law and had my audience’s rapt...
There is a difference between listening and waiting for your turn to speak. - Simon Sinek I used to want to be the center of attention at a party. I was good at it, too. I would make my entrance...
  “Our most difficult task as a friend is to offer understanding when we don’t understand.” ~Robert Brault I just read a story about a graphic designer who created a series of greeting cards for people with serious illness. Fifteen years...
“Mistakes are the portals of discovery”- James Joyce Meg appeared in my doorway, hesitated and then slowly walked toward me, her finger outstretched, pointing. “Have you seen the Miller file? I think maybe I left it in here. Maybe you...
  “The only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing”. – Edmund Burke A woman in my industry has a reputation for being extremely difficult to work with. She attacks others, including her own teammates,...
“If you don’t feel it, don’t play it”. – The Funk Brothers I recently had lunch with a couple of girlfriends. We spent a breezy two hours talking about everything from current events to parenting and from careers to religious...